6/22/18
Yesterday my daughter and son-in-law closed on their new house in Lakewood, a Cleveland neighborhood not too far from the lake. Lake Erie, that is, the shallowest of the inland freshwater oceans in this part of the country. Their realtor gave them a congratulatory bouquet of flowers which they brought to me last night when we went out for dinner. Since they won’t be living comfortably either in their current apartment or in their new home for a while yet, I am the lucky recipient.
The luscious Easter and calla lilies, and fuschia zinnias are standing on the bureau in my room beneath the photo of Richard on the wall. It is the same picture we had in front of the sign-in book at his memorial, the same one of him that I use on my screensaver. Because it is his birthday coming up it feels more like the flowers are for him. The dual purpose floral arrangement is fitting as he and I helped a little to fund this house that will also become the family home for me and Marion at holiday time.
He will never turn 68 years old. My brain still has difficulty processing this obvious fact. Sunday marks his birth all those years ago, and I am unclear how to hold what used to be another appointed date for us to celebrate him. It will be day for me to do that in his absence. Against the sorrow of my personal loss and the enormous continuing loss of our country as we knew it, I do celebrate whole heartedly, the fact Emilia and Zoran have bought their first home. It was a joy for Richard to know they had been searching for a house before he died. He would have been overjoyed and right in there with suggestions for them on how to fix it up to their liking and how best to maintain it.
6/24/18
I woke up with these words this morning:
For Richard
Kendal Birthdays
This is his first not birthday
A day I never imagined
Has arrived
Not a dearth of imagination
But a surfeit of love that blinds
The inevitable as impossible
The day that mortality
Counts coup in passing through
Time and space
He no longer inhabits
I do
The bed I wake up in
Could be anywhere
But it is from here
I will continue lose him
To gain the unimaginable
Not a dearth of imagination
But a surfeit of Love
Opens my eyes
Beyond time and space
Death has no birthdays
The red wing blackbirds
Shrill by the pond
My new home
This Day, this Year, I miss him acutely.
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